So you’ve read a few of the back stories, like the idea of lining up multiple dates and think you’ve got what it takes to become a prolific online dater. Where do you start? After you’ve paid your money and got your confirmation email, it’s all about selling yourself and creating the perfect profile. While this is mainly aimed at the fellas in the audience, there are some pretty universal rules for everyone thinking of going online.
Pictures
The more inexplicable the better as they need to pique interest and raise questions. I included one of me and Doctor Karl Kennedy from Neighbours night in Melbourne some 5 years ago which was always a good conversation starter. Fancy dress and travel pictures are always good, and make sure you’ve got at least one with you and 3+ other friends as social proof is essential. Make sure none of your friends are too attractive either, as this will just make whoever’s viewing them focus on how they wished your good looking pal was looking for a date. For the guys, make sure there’s one of you with an attractive female friend/colleague to show that you can be adaptable- you can have a few beers with the lads, are comfortable in the company of women, and will have at least a few interesting stories to tell. Essentially, that’s what you want to say with your gallery.
The Main Blurb
Easier said than done, but make it punchy, funny and memorable without seeming like you’re trying too hard and limit it to a couple of paragraphs at the most. By all means mention that you are gainfully employed, but don’t bang on about your job and how interesting you think it is, and don’t try and tell your life story. Make a few open ended statements that will lead to questions and don’t answer everything before you’ve made contact. Don’t be generic either; so many guys think it’s a good idea to write ‘I’m just a nice fella looking to meet a special person to walk on the beach with blah blah blah’. It’s not a good idea; it’s sappy, dull and impresses no one. As a similar girl equivalent, I lost count of the number of profiles I saw that had ‘DVD and a bottle of Wine’ listed as a favourite Saturday night activity. Yes, it’s nice to have a quiet night in, but you’re a tub of Ben and Jerrys and a Sex and the City box set away from sounding very unappealing. For me, I said that I visit squirrel sanctuaries and sell crack to school children (copyright LondonStunt 2009) and I always got plenty of emails asking whether I was serious or not. The attention had been grabbed and my aim achieved.
Initiating Contact
Wink or Email? This is a judgement call really. If you’re not that bothered and feeling a bit lazy, go for the wink. If you REALLY like the look of someone, send an email but keep it short and memorable. The best approach is to pick up on a line from their blurb or one of their photos and either relate it to your own thoughts or opinions, or better yet, use it for a bit of ribbing. Nothing like a bit of gentle piss-taking to get the interest levels up… and for the love of God, NEVER NEVER NEVER open by saying the girl is hot. Even if she is. Just NEVER do it. Hot girls get told they’re hot all the time, so don’t be another one of the unimaginative, drooling masses and strive to differentiate yourself. You can leave the compliments for when you secure the date. The short email introduction does NOT count towards your quota in ‘The 3 Email Rule’…
The 3 Email Rule
If you take nothing else from this article, please remember ‘The 3 Email Rule’. At the start of my online adventure, I spent so much time going back and forth with a number of girls over several weeks, going through Facebook to check a wider range of pictures and waiting for the perfect time to suggest a meet up, only for it to fizzle out; interest flagging from either myself or the girl. The 3 Email Rule has had a 100% success rate and it’s as simple as it sounds; on the third significant email, and assuming that you want to, ask her out on a date. What else are people on these sites for? It shows decisiveness on your part and saves you wasting your valuable online time by weeding out the girls who just aren’t that up for it. 3 emails are enough to give a bit more detail and elaborate on some of your statements or the stories behind your photos, and if you’ve followed the previous advice, your 3 emails should have raised even more questions in her mind, creating greater interest. There are NO EXCEPTIONS to ‘The 3 Email Rule’.
Friday, 20 March 2009
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2 comments:
I've been saying that for months. Don't tell girls they're fit, you're instantly f**ked in a bad way from then on
Good points well made sir. Although I'm not sure I agree with the point about having pictures of yourself with attractive female friends. That just makes it look like you're trying to show how much of a player you are. Possibly not the most appealing quality for some girls.
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